Financially sound

Posted Posted in Families, General

One thing that frustrates me (and I suspect all mediators) is that mediation is labelled a ‘soft option’.  This is often the criticism put forward by the misinformed, but there is also a genuine fear that mediation could achieve a lesser result in divorce and separation than using other methods, including court.  Particularly for sorting…

Supporting Family Mediation Week

Family Mediation Week 2021: day 5 – Principles underpinning family mediation.

Posted Posted in Children, Families, General

Lawyers were traditionally the first port of call when looking at divorce and separation.  Forward-thinking lawyers know that often (where there are no protection or safety concerns) they can step back and allow clients to sort out some of their future decisions themselves.  When talking about the day-to-day arrangements for children, the law offers little…

Family Mediation Week 2021: day 4 – What about Me?

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“What about me?” is a recent report of the FAMILY SOLUTIONS GROUP.  The report calls for greater support for those experiencing divorce and separation, especially children.  In particular, the need for:  Reframing family breakdown away from ‘justice’ language, towards an understanding of child welfare. A Framework of Support Services for Children and Young People – led…

Family Mediation Week 2021: day 2 – What actually happens in family mediation?

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Mediation can be misunderstood.  Like anything you try for the first time, it can take a while to understand and settle into.  So as part of this series of blogs in Family Mediation Week 2021  explanations to demystify and take away some of the fear.  Mediation is fundamentally about communication.  Exploring what is behind people’s…

Good Divorce Week 2020

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Can you have a ‘good divorce’?  I sit slightly uncomfortably with the phrase, but it is true that, done in the right way, a divorce doesn’t have to be as bad as you think. Good Divorce Week is an annual campaign to promote constructive ways forward for anyone separating or divorcing.  Organised by Resolution, this…

What is a MIAM?

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In a world that often seems binary, a new divide; those who know what a MIAM is and those who say, “A what?” whilst screwing up their face. On behalf of mediators everywhere – our apology.  We know it’s a weird word (not even a word but an acronym) and we know it doesn’t exactly…